Being successful is hard work, ladies.

If it were easy, well, there’d be a lot more of us sprawling out on the couch in yoga pants on Monday mornings instead of hitting the road for the morning rush.

Instead, many of us stay stuck in route patterns & routines for weeks, months, years – even decades.

Why do we do such things? Why would we rather dig into another PLL Netflix marathon than actually write that blog post (when we know that blog post is going to get us closer to where we want to be)?

…’Cause change is effing hard, ya’ll. It requires feeling uncomfortable & awkward.

But I’ve got news for ya, babe:

If you want to be successful, you’re going to have to do things other people won’t. @ericaleexo

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Yep. To get the lifestyle you crave – y’know, with the money in the bank, the accolades, the delicious feeling of following your heart, the fabulous shoes (just me?) – you’re gonna have to change things up.  It’s a scary but true fact that the most wealthy & championed womenpreneurs know – and use to their advantage.

‘Cause like Einstein said, insanity is doing the same thing over & over & expecting different results.

You may not even know where or why you’re stuck. But as someone who spent years spinning her own training wheels before finally pedaling off into the land of Entrepreneur-ville, I’ve got some insight for ya.

Today, I’m gonna fill you in on a few moves that are slaughtering your chances of sweet success before you’ve even had a chance to sip your morning latte. Ready? Leggo!

1. You’re Staying In Your Comfort Zone.

If you wanna rise to the tippy-top of your industry, you HAVE to leave your comfort zone.

Of course, everybody’s comfort zone is different, so there’s no one-size-fits-all rule for what this looks like.

Take me, for example. I’m extremely shy in my regular day-to-day life, so leaving my comfort zone includes accepting (sometimes butterfly-inducing) interview requests, lining up multiple sales calls in one day and, you know, leaving the house to work instead of kickin’ it in my VS PJs. Maybe those things seem like a piece o’ cake to you – and if so, that’s great! Leaving your comfort zone might mean speaking at a telesummit or shipping your saucy new book to the publisher.

I read an amazing quote the other day. It said, “Everything you truly want is right outside your comfort zone” – and it’s soooo true! If you already HAD what you wanted, it’d be IN your comfort zone. Makes total sense, right?

The good news is that you don’t have to start rock climbing or jetset off to France with nothing but a backpack to expand your c-zone.

You can start (uber, uber) small, like reaching out to a blogger you adore & pitching yourself as a guest, or simply pushing ‘Publish’ on your newest sales page before it feels ‘finished.’

The better news? Every stiletto-step outside your comfort zone makes it grow, and eventually the things that terrify you will feel like NBD. (Trust me, guys. I used to be so anxious about driving that I couldn’t go anywhere involving a left turn. Now, I drive to major cities by my lonesome. Slow & steady wins the race!)

2. You’re Working in a Sucky Environment.

Let’s be clear on one thing:

You DO NOT have to work in a fancy high rise or have a Pinterest-worthy office space to become gloriously successful.

But you DO have to create a work environment that nurtures your creativity, growth & inner peace. (Ommmmmm.)

Case-in-point: I started this business from my boyfriend’s basement, so I’m definitely not telling you to wait until you have the perfect office set-up to get your biz on. Hell to the no.

Instead, I’m urging you to do everything you can to protect your sacred creative space.

We all unknowingly soak up the energy in whatever environment we occupy. If you’re constantly surrounded by negativity – even if you’re the most naturally positive person on the planet – you’ll eventually be brought down, too.

So how can you ensure your environment is one that helps you thrive? Well, it might mean buying into a co-working space, so you can get out of your house once in awhile. It might mean skipping out on your roomie who looooooves partying at 3 a.m. on Wednesdays (’cause aint no empire-builder got time for that).

Or it might look even simpler, like buying a dedicated desk instead of constantly sprawling out on the sofa with your MacBook (and letting ‘Real Housewives’ hum in the background – I know what that leads to…). Or maybe it means decorating a spare bedroom with a vision board, quotes or other trinkets that inspire you.

It can even mean creating delicious creative rituals to begin & end your work day so that your environment stays peaceful, like lighting candles, jamming to a specific playlist or locking your damn office doors.

You’ve got to protect your creativity and your dream. Aint nobody else gonna do it for ya!

3. You’re Giving Off Bad Money Mojo

2013 was a major wake up call for me in the money department. After a series of financial foibles, I had to take a good hard look at my finances once & for all.

And even though it was scary, taking the blindfold off was actually the best thing that could have ever happened for both me and my business.

I’m telling you, girls. This shit works. I began doing work with forgiveness and cash over the summer, and by the fall, I had tripled my income. TRIPLED.

Even if you don’t think you’ve got money drama, chances are you unknowingly picked up a few bitter beliefs about the almighty dollar growing up.

Maybe part of you still thinks you can’t be both spiritual and rich, or that anybody with a padded bank account is greedy & salacious & probably earned their piece by scamming people.

If this sounds even slightly familiar, I recommend picking up Denise Duffield Thomas’ Get Rich, Lucky Bitch sooner than later to get to work on releasing your negative money mojo.

No matter how much you’re hustling, you’re stopping cash right in its tracks if you don’t have the right beliefs around money. So hop to it, sister!

4. You’ve Got a Serious Case of Comparisonitis (and You Aint Goin’ to the Doctor)

As they say, you won’t get anywhere comparing your behind-the-scenes with another’s highlight reel.

Online, we can meticulously control how we appear – and sometimes, when you see your competitors (or even your friends) living it up, lavishly sipping fruity drinks in itty bitty bikinis or boasting about their latest book deal, you can start to feel like a total failure (even if you just nabbed a totally sweet gig yourself).

You’ve gotta remember that wherever you are right now is perfect and exactly where you’re meant to be. 

It might not look like much, I get it. But I’m a firm believer in ‘que sera, que sera’ – whatever will be, will be. All in good time.

So what can you do to feel better about yourself and your biz while you build? Do yourself a favor & unsubscribe from your competitor’s newsletters. Quit hopelessly (Twitter) stalking your fave mentor. And give your own creative juju some space to breathe.

Keep your eyes on your own paper, and everything will be okay.

BONUS! 5. You’re Not Taking Small, Consistent Action

I almost didn’t include this one, but it actually may be the most important. You can be doing all the other things (except for number one, really) and not actually be doing anything that will drive your business forward.

If you ever wanna build that fancy empire, you’ve gotta stop the info. devouring, and start the info. creating.

Because successful people make their mark. And that’s the truth.

YOUR TURN! //

So there ya have it, loves! Are you guilty of any of these success-killing moves? Have you fallen prey to any other barriers to success?

I challenge you to pick one thing on this list & STOP doing it – today. Then, make a public declaration in the comments so we can support you! We’ve got your back, lady love.

 

 

 

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